Hey Man, thanks for posting! I feel your pain... I went through a divorce also. I was married for almost 25 years. I found my "wife 2.0" online. She's a big, full version upgrade from "wife 1.0! LOL!
It sounds to me like you're looking in the wrong place so far. Don't give up, just "fish" in another "pond." If that pond doesn't produce, then hike over to another pond.
What body type do you like? I happen to like "big" gurls, so I went to BBW parties and I searched Yahoo Messenger Profiles for Big Beautiful Women. Black women almost always have bigger, higher, rounder asses than white girls and that's what I like, so that's what I wanted. One lady actually hit on me while I was signed on and we've been together for 5 years and married for 2 years.
If you like skinny girls, (and I can't understand why because they remind me of boys) then search personals and Yahoo for them.
I would suggest that you simply change your fishing tactics. If you're looking for someone local, then you're going to have to go to where the ladies hang out.
Secondly, forget being Mr. Nice Guy and be the confident, cocky and funny guy. That will create instant attraction for any woman, whether she's black or white. That's what you want, create attraction. Don't be a Wussy and call all the time... let her call you. Give her time to miss you. Take her out for a drink but not dinner and flowers until you have her hooked on you. Maybe she'll buy you a drink if you're cool and not desperate.
Most of all, go to where the women you want hang out locally. If the skinny girls are out dancing then do that and go ask them to dance. If the big girls are out at the restaurants and the grocery store, then go do that. Be friendly and you'll soon make some new friends. It all takes some effort, so don't give up!
